87. How to Stay Composed, Sharp and Unbreakable Through Any Setback – BG, CH4, V20 – Part 2

Summary:

Karma-yogi derives his contentment/peace from well-intended actions, rather then outcomes of actions. The jnani derives his peace from one additional source, the permanent knowledge that I am free of the person – I am the very cause of the cosmos, nothing can add onto or subtract from Me.


Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 4, Verse 20, Part 2:

1) Where does karma-yogi derive one’s security or peace?

Peace comes from well-intended action. Even if its results are unappreciated, your happiness is still in the mere knowledge that “my actions came from a good intended place, and not the harm”.

Placing peace in outcomes means leasing inner stability to variables entirely outside your control: others' comprehension, emotional state, timing. Additionally, life isn't designed to please you – but accommodates the needs of everyone.

Three examples showing what it means to find contentment in the well-intendedness of actions, rather then results of actions…

1. Making your peace contingent on someone's apology:

Suppose you're expecting someone to apologize so you can be at peace. Until then you keep bringing it up in passive aggressive way. This is actually the child inside you who use to say at time of mom/dad's faults or negligences, “You were supposed to love me, protect me, not abandon me, not break me!”.

Child in you believed love was conditional, thus earned by an apology from mom or dad. So kid waits endlessly, become louder in hopes to receive validation that the child matters… who is afraid of existential annihilation due to beginningless ignorance of one’s nature. 

SOLUTION: Realize the person you want an apology from is not special; another human being entangled by samsara. Understand the one who continues shouting at him/her (whether it's your spose, sibling, friend, client, parent) – is the child in you who believes If I shout loud enough, you’ll see me, you’ll validate that I matter to you – and you responding means you care about me”. That’s why pestering him/her never stops. Thus tell the kid in you, “I see you, you don’t need him/her. I got you. You matter”.

2. Drona discovers Yudhishthira lied about Ashwatthama

Yudhishthira told Drona that Ashwatthama was dead, knowing it was only an elephant by that name, and not his son. He did this intentionally stop Drona from continuing to hurt those on the side of dharma.

Suppose Drona found out, survived, and called Yudhishthira a liar. Even then, Yudhishthira's peace would rest on “I did this to pull Drona out of his delusion, to stop him destroying himself.” Whether Drona appreciated that or not, changes nothing. The intention was to help, not to harm.

3) Son's Drug Addiction

Suppose family watches their son spiral deeper into addiction, in complete denial that he has a problem, and refuses to listen. Or daughter fall for a toxic man. They invite him/her for a “causal dinner”. As he/she shows up, awaits the family but also two relatives the son knows. The conversation goes well, but steers into topic of drug addiction. Son finds out that the whole thing was a set up to eventually try to influence him – and ends up resenting them deeply. 

In this situation, you would find strength in, “Though I spoke untruth of dinner's purpose, intention wasn’t to hurt him/her, but influence him away from the drugs”.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Attachment

Krishna says in Verse 20, “Give up attachment to results of actions”.

As a general rule, immediately divide the word “attachment” whenever you see it in the Gita, into healthy and unhealthy attachment. 

Healthy attachment means caring enough to act, but without losing center when expectations fail.

Unhealthy attachment is when you're deeply disturbed when things don't go your way.

Therefore Krishna is really saying, “Give up unhealthy attachment, or convert unhealthy attachment to healthy attachment”. 

2) Where is Jnani’s security or peace derived from?

Jnani's contentment arises from two sources:

  1. Having understood what was spoken above, his mind derives contentment by doing well intended, thought-through actions. And is at peace knowing no action is perfect, as no action is 100% informed. Thus drop the idea of doing a perfect action; just do something!
  2. Unceasingly and effortlessly recognizes self (Atma) is already complete, thus no action can add more onto it, as you are the material cause of the cosmos.

Nididhyasana Continues:

Although unconscious emotional loads can still deny the contentment that's supposed to come along with realizing you are permanently free, and won’t return after body dies – therefore the jnani engages in an “ongoing investigation” called “nididhyasanam” in Sanskrit, which involves continued listening to Vedantic knowledge to remove the residual emotional and intellectual distortions.

Although even in nididhyasanam, the wise person appreciates, “I am the light of consciousness that illuminates the doer doing this ongoing investigation”.

 

NEXT VERSE: Wise person's cheerfulness comes from being free from expectations…

Course was based on Swami Dayananda (Arsha Vidya) home study course.

Recorded 15 March, 2026

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